Had an interesting conversation with a patient at work.
I was setting her up while "The Bachelor" was on, and she was fascinated by it. She never really got into the show until the end of last season, at the insistence of a friend. I shook my head and said that it was kind of disappointing. She asked why. "Because I believe in love," I answered.
I made the point to her that "The Bachelor" turns the whole dating thing into a competition where the prize is getting an engagement ring, and our natural thing as animals is to overcome and eliminate competition. There's no love on that show. No real lasting connection. Just a bunch of people competing for fame and notoriety. It's so utterly cynical, and we have all bought in. Don't get me wrong. I'm single, and dating is very much like a competition, but it isn't -- and shouldn't ever be -- such an openly direct one.
The patient smiled and agreed with me.
I believe in love, in a connection to another person that makes you want to succeed with them, fail for them, shield them from hurt. In something that enriches both people's lives to the point where it's like cable TV, and you wonder what you did before that person. That makes me sappy, or overly romantic, or whatever, but I don't want to meet my future wife on what amounts to a game show.
I like to think I'm more of an optimist than that.